Why don't i have the body and strength I want

Are you going to the gym as a chore or are you excited to go daily. One of the reasons your not excited is because you have seen any real change and your lack of motivation is understandable. You do not have an end goal in sight and the plan to get there itself is very blurry.

it is also how you look at the process and what you are focusing on. For example, if you wanted to get your gym over and done with the first thing in the morning, a lot do not even make it to the gym because they are thinking of the hard work, sweat , getting cleaned up, dressing up again, etc. and that is all negative, Heck, I would  not want to come either if I though about that. How I got around that? I though of just one thing, Just making it through the doors. Once I am inside the gym, i allow what I paid for to do its job! The gym ambiance, seeing other people working , the music to edge me on into working out. You should be sick of  not looking and feeling your best, not tucking your shirt in to hide the love handles, or wishing your had some mass on when that cute guy or girl walks by you. Make no mistake every one watches everyone all the time! Also recognize your own BS. The excuses I have heard, "Oh I didn't have the time", "I cant afford it", "my body is just this way", "I have kids", "I work a lot". So that means every fit and toned person you see at the gym is rich, no kids, has won the lottery and is on vacation cause they have time. CUT THE BS and be honest with your self!!

Here is the reality. Say you want to build muscle and you hit the weights, you realize that you creating micro tears and really building muscle fiber by fiber and you need to stick at it for 2 months at least to notice any difference.Or, you want to loose weight and begin going crazy with the cardio, you drop some weight(only water weight) and they feel good about your self and let yourself slide with that little happiness. You may have lost weight but not necessarily fat. and the yo-yo begins again, demotivating you even more each time. I have seen some people going nuts and coming twice a day and going to every Zumba class, they loose weight then put it back on as soon as they stop.

Sit down with a certified trainer and make a plan, set up goals and expectations. Learn how to lift weights, how fat to lift them, what to think  when you lift weight. Understand the plan and stick with it for at least a month. Look, It takes a month for you to see and feel different and that will motivate you a little to do it again next month. I say a little because I have seen some people happy and they they go out for a big massive carb heavy meal to celebrate. Are you kidding me? Look at your self in the mirror and you be the judge. Do you enjoy sitting holding a pillow at a social gathering, or having the though of how you shirt is making your stomach bulge at your belt line, which everyone else sees as well. Come on! Stick to the plan, you owe it to your self. Our clients are given a 3 month plan which they understand and they see results in.

HA! bet you did not think that was important. it doesnt look as cool as throwing  heavy weight around but it so so so essential for muscle growth and injury p[prevention.

I do not believe in a "Diet Plan", even though many ask me for one. Sure I can give you one but what is the use if you can sustain it. I teach people about nutrition and they modify their own meals, quality of their meals and the timing of their meals. Understanding and implementing that allows  it to be sustainable. A lot of us want to loose weight but never think about the starting point. You need to stop being insulin resistant first, then go full steam into your fat loss program. you need to understand "Keto", "Paleo" diets, etc. and if they apply to you and your goals. you have to understand liver health  and the huge role it plays in your fitness goals. It is not about gorging your self with protein if you liver and kidneys cannot handle that amount of protein.what is the point of eating so much chicken and meat for "protein" if that meat is poor quality it will spike your estrogen levels and push your testosterone down.

We cannot eat and workout the same in the 40s than we did in your 20s, even though we eat the same if not more, have more stress and sleep less. Our hormones have changed, our stomach digests food differently, our liver has changed and we need to fix that. We need adequate rest and recovery or we have more stress as older adults and that plays a huge role on our hormones and body fat levels. More research has been done and the methods of "have a big breakfast", is literally thrown out the window.

The big question! what kind of training, what is the best body split , how many sets, how many reps..?

There are so many methods and techniques out there and you need to put it together in a structured plan, with achievable goals and track and asses your progress weekly. You have to know how to train, how to move the weight, what is the range of motion. Do you need to address any mobility issues that are holding you back and setting you up for injuries later.

Look, make the decision and get a personal trainer. you can see some video testimonials here(https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCQAkacZqFrEi5AJCyb1nFJg/videos).